• Kiah.

There's a chance you won't find the love of your life in your 20s & that's okay

Updated: Dec 21, 2019

Let’s just cut straight to the chase, there’s a chance you won’t find the love of your life in your 20s… and that’s okay. It’s more than okay. There are billions of people in this world and wasting your time on one person in your 20s sounds like an act of insanity, to me.

Now, let's get started....

If you fall into the category of being a 20-something hopeless romantic, like me, then there’s a high chance that love stories, romantic comedies, weddings and “how we met” videos really spark a certain something in you. Ah, you love love and although you’ve watched every romantic comedy that exists, your life is nothing of the sorts.

Or maybe you don’t quite fall into that category, but you are a 20-something who has had their fair share of dates, break ups/make ups, long/short relationships and more. It’s not uncommon to scroll up and down your Instagram feed and see those couples that appear to be seemingly happy and head over heels for each other.

Whether you like it or not, you’re bound to run into it on some part of social media. And are you crazy for wondering, even if it’s just for a second, when that will happen to you? Am I crazy? The obvious is answer is no, duh.

Dating and relationships in your 20s can sometimes feel like picking up an oatmeal raisin cookie because you thought it was chocolate chip, only to realize you have been bamboozled, lied to and lead astray.

{Full disclosure, I've been single for 4 going on 5 years. Also, the last time I went on a date was over a year ago (let's not get into the situationships that may have taken place). And yes, I'll admit that meeting the love of my life and further solidifying the idea that my life could possibly be a romantic comedy IRL has been on the forefront of my mind quite a few times within this time span. Alas, here I am.... still single.}

We all desire to be wanted by someone romantically. Yes, I said it. There’s dating apps, dating sites, sliding in DMs, speed dating and probably a bunch of other things that I have not (and probably will not) venture off into. All of these things are easily accessible to us, however, the same ease does not apply to the actual act of finding the love of your life or even just simply finding a decent person to date/get to know.

Does that make you or me incapable of attracting love or a life partner? No. Does that mean that there's a chance it won't happen in our 20s? Possibly.

I'll be the first to admit that dating is not fun and relationships, I know, are hard work. There’s vulnerability, honesty, openness and another human being staring back at you forcing you to reexamine everything you thought you might have known about yourself.

If you haven't already made the decision to close yourself off to love, dating and relationships in your 20s... well, I'm not going to say something cliche like: wait for it, it will come. If you want something, go get it. I will say: don't put yourself on a timeline.

Love exists in your 20s, whether it's romantically or not. Whether you have a bae or not. Remain open to love in all ways.

Like I said, maybe you're a hopeless romantic like me or maybe you're the complete opposite and all that lovey dovey s*** makes you cringe- whether you fall into the former or latter category, odds are, you’ve dated, been in relationships or just simply enjoyed the companionship of another person.

Not every person that you love will turn out to be the love of your life so... there's a chance that you won't find them in your 20s.

And that's okay.

Thanks for reading, and don't forget... be great! xo.


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